What is Relationship Anarchy?
I know, I know.
The name can sound intense.
But don't be alarmed.
We're not talking about chaos, disorder or an absence of boundaries - you know, the way mainstream U.S. culture portrays anarchy.
The truth is, anarchy simply means without hierarchy.
The prefix -an meaning without.
And the suffix -archy meaning ruler.
Society's collective phobia of anarchy mirrors the fear that, without social hierarchies, there would be chaos and destruction.
And it's no coincidence that our collective imaginations have been manipulated to fear the absence of a ruler.
We've been tricked into fearing our own liberation.
But more on this later 😉
So what is Relationship Anarchy?
Well, it's practically impossible to cover all of the multidimensional facets of Relationship Anarchy in a single sentence.
So I've created a table below that outlines the main differences in contrast to Mono-Normative culture.
I'll be diving deeper into each of these facets listed below with new blog posts. So, subscribe for notifications if you haven't already. As I post new articles, I'll link them to the bullet points below. Keep an eye out!
But if I were to attempt to describe Relationship Anarchy in one sentence, I'd say:
it's a lifestyle that puts interdependent relationships with the social ecosystem at the center of your life instead of having your life revolve around a singular person - particularly a sexual/romantic partner.
Mono-Normative Culture
Mono-Normative culture prioritizes one person over all other relationships. More power is given to sexual/romantic relationships. It's hierarchical in nature.
Relationship Anarchy
Non-Hierarchical Relationships revolve around community rather than a single sexual/romantic partner. The people in the inner and outer circles ebb and flow as life organically ebbs and flows over time.
There's so much more to be said, of course, so check out the comparisons below.
Mono-Normativity
Cultures of War
rooted in scarcity
competition
control-based partnerships
(motivated by fear)
domination based relationships
extractive
Trauma Response
(internalized oppression)
anti-social
codependence
life centered around nuclear family
Relationship Anarchy
Cultures of Care
Rooted in Abundance
collaboration/cooperation
trust-based partnerships
(motivated by courage)
consent based relationships
reciprocal
Law of the Universe
(impermanence)
pro-social
interdependence
life centered around community
